We need good listeners, more than good speakers.

We do think that if we wanted to be loved and respected we must be a good speaker, that one who could beat up anyone in an argument, that one who knows the most interesting stories and facts. But do we really have to become that one? Honestly consider this fact that how many of us admire the good speakers of our social circle. We think that the person who is a great conversationalist can be a narcissistic one, a boastful one, that one who is too arrogant to let anyone speak.

Lets come on the second condition. If we meet a good listener, we get mostly comfortable with him because he lets us reveal ourselves in every possible way, you get a sense of relief and self esteem with him. Even he won’t speak a word about himself, we already like them because they let us construct a good image of ourselves. Note that point ourselves

A good listener has to sacrifice his instinct of self-love for sometime while mingling with other because in result he gets that importance from others which he thought of getting it by speaking.